Thanks to technology and continuing HIV awareness, dating for HIV positive people has become much easier and less humiliating than in previous years. Most importantly, an HIV positive person does not have to take their chances in clubs and other such places – online dating is here, and it’s thriving.
Dating for HIV Positive People in the ‘Real World’
Of course, online dating in specific HIV-related dating sites is not the only option, nor should it be considered so. With certain strategies and an ability to read people, an HIV-infected person can still enjoy the more ‘traditional’ dating scene. It is important to note, however, that care must be taken.
There is much stress over the question of when to disclose to a potential partner your HIV status. The best answer in my experience is this: before there is any physical contact of any kind.
Now, educated people know that a harmless kiss is not going to transmit HIV, but not everyone knows this. Since it is certainly not unheard of for some people to have violent reactions when a partner discloses their HIV status, the best thing to do is err on the side of caution and reduce the risks of that happening – especially for women.
Here are the important points to keep in mind to avoid an excessive reaction:
Disclose early in the ‘intimacy cycle’
Disclose when both of you are sober
If you think there may be a problem, disclose in a relatively public place
You will generally find that if you show respect for other people’s health and allow them to make the decision of risk, they will return the respect back to you.
Online Dating for HIV Positive People
The great thing about online dating, especially in ‘themed’ sites that cater to HIV singles, is that the disclosure question is off the table. When the disclosure question is off the table, people you won’t be consumed by your condition – and neither will anyone else. The other great thing is that you can be discreet if you like, and only send photos to members with whom you have built a trust rather than in your general profile.